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wisdom
Kim Cattrall, 50, actor, author
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"One year at the Emmy’s, I was asked, “What are you wearing underneath this gown?” I replied “Confidence”. And I meant it. One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is that good things start with self-esteem. You need to have confidence in yourself – who you are and what your life is about. It will carry you through the challenges of your life whether it’s a career or relationship crisis, or something else that’s been handed to you through fate.
"To gain confidence, you first need to recognise yourself as an individual. It’s about being your own best friend. There are so many things women tell themselves on a daily basis and, unfortunately, thoughts like “I’m too fat” or “I’m not pretty enough” creep in. If only you could replace those phrases with “I’m on the path of losing weight” or “Well, I just haven’t met the right guy yet”. Don’t be so critical of yourself. It doesn’t mean you have to be a braggart and say, “I’m the best”, but rather, “I’m working towards a goal”.
"A defeatist attitude can get sewn into your fabric early in life if you don’t watch it. There are worldly achievements and there are achievements just for yourself, which may be about treating yourself better, getting a new set of friends or getting a job that feels right. Fulfilment is what we’re all looking for.
"I think it’s a lifetime search and it changes as you get older.
"It’s difficult to allow things to happen, but it’s important to be aware of making them happen. It’s a fine line, but a sense of self will always guide you."
Article published January 2007.
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